I called my estate planning book Get Your Ducks in a Row. Chanel Reynolds, a young mother in Seattle whose husband died in a bicycle accident, is much more direct. Her website on estate planning is called GetYourShitTogether.org.
On top of her grief when her husband died, Ms. Reynolds was panicked about how she was going to take care of and raise her daughters and things as simple as how to access financial accounts on line. If she and her husband had taken a few relatively simple and cost-effective steps in advance, it would have saved her a tremendous amount of time and stress when her husband died.